There’s an old Dr. Suess book that we really enjoy using as a learning/counselling tool with our youth at work called Oh The Places You’ll Go and I lately I’ve been reminded of one quote in particular: “So be sure when you step. Step with care and great tact and remember that Life’s a Great Balancing Act. Just never forget to be dexterous and deft. And never mix up your right foot with your left.” I am not entering my fourth week back in the game as a working mommy and it has definitely not been an easy adjustment for the family but we are trudging through this transition and keeping in mind that yes, yes indeed, life is a great balancing act.
I am having a difficult time recalling how this transition went the last time around…you know in the long long ago…the distant time when it was just Mike, Jacob and I?? I seem to recall it being much simplier and that it went off without a hitch and try as I might, I just can’t put my finger on what is making it feel so different this time. If I had to take one guess I’d say that it has a lot to do with how different Violet’s personality is from Jacob’s because he has always managed well with change due to his laid back, easily adaptable, outgoing personality. I can honestly say that Jacob is and always has been a total Daddy’s boy, while Violet seems to be a Mommy’s girl and perhaps this might be another thing affecting the transition…it is obvious that Violet is discontent when we leave and her jubiliant squeels of delight when we return (although heart warming) really show me that she is truly missing us when we are not around – the end result is that we end up spending a lot of time cuddling her and holding her because this is what she needs.
Going back to work for me is not so straight forward as it is for most 9-5 working mom’s because I sometimes work weekends and most often evenings….I really feel that if I had a 9-5 job, I’d probably feel that the balancing act was not so difficult but because I am often home on weekdays, sometimes only work 3 days a week, and very often don’t go into work until 230pm, I find that I am balancing a lot of the responsibilities of a stay at home mom and a working mom combined. I really want to get better at doing things like home organization and keeping on top of the laundry and I’ve made it my goal that March is going to be the month to get all these things sorted out – an organized clean home makes mommy feel happy, and a happy mommy is just happiness for everybody. I feel really blessed and fortunate to have Mike around, he’s super duper fantastic when it comes to helping out – sometimes I ‘m not sure I’d ever survive if he were not around….but we keep on balancing and we keep on trudging through this parenting roller coaster; I wouldn’t have it any other way.
The hardest part for me is that I need to start forcing myself to get to bed at an earlier hour than I normally do but it’s hard because the night time, after my children are long tucked into bed…is the time that I can indulge in things that I enjoy like time with Mike, television programs, or digital scrapbooking. Time and time again I convince myself that I am going to seek solace in a 10pm bed time but time and time again I am up until 1, 2, 3 am partaking of a little ME time, time that is just necessary for my own mental health, and I’m sure paying or it with exhaustion the next day but I find it worth it because I need that down time….I have an incredibly HIGH stress job, a go go go preschooler, and a brand new full of spirit toddler to keep me busy when I’m not at work! Indeed, life is a great balancing act……but as Dr. Suess so eloquently puts it in his book…..
And will you succeed?
Yes! You will, indeed!
(98 and ¾ percent guaranteed.)